Thursday, September 04, 2008
Young Women and Safety
This is a wonderful topic to round up our discussions with, as it is of utmost importance to all women.
As women, we need to take responsibility for own safety. We cannot afford to leave this in anybody’s hands. I find that if I think I will be out late, I try to get a friend to accompany me. At least, in the face of any physical threats, there are more of us. Loise makes a similar point in her post. A few weeks ago, I learnt some self-defence moves which can be used if I am attacked. These were very simple moves, but very, very effective, so I think it’s a great idea to get a self-defence expert to teach you some of these.
When it comes to sex, this also applies. If women choose to have sex, we need to take adequate steps to protect ourselves as we are the ones who will have to deal with any repercussions. Rose talks about exhibiting the same caution with our romantic lives.
It’s been wonderful sharing and learning from all of you in these last few weeks. It’s been especially cool to see you all grow in your use of blogs and social networking tools. I hope that you are all able to keep up with these.
Posted by Ore on 09/04 at 07:23 AM
Sunday, August 31, 2008
Young Women and Safety
Hi,everyone the topic is very important because we are talking about our selves women are very important people in the community and there safety should be highly looked on. young women are taken advantage by men raping being a mother at a tender age then you are left to take care of the baby alone, as a young woman you cant go anywhere alone at night because you are not safe also you cant have fun without an escort to make sure you reached home safely.we should punish those people who make young women life miserable.women take great care of yourselves.
Posted by Loise Nyambura on 08/31 at 11:59 PM
women and safety
hi everyone is again another monday but too bad coz we are finishing today this serssion but hope we will keep in touch. as today’s topic suggest women and safety. first we all need safety in order to live in this world. but we women we are the ones who need it very much coz in most cases we are the ones who suffer the consequinces in case we happen to do anything bad or erelevant. As for example if awoman/lady happens to get married at a early age most of them usually regret in the future, and you will hear them advicing you never to get married in the future coz you will regret but they are forgeting that it was all their fault coz they did’nt think first when they where acting and that is why they are regreting and didnt play safe when they had there time to think. so please we should all try to our level best to always play safe and avoid this things that can be avoided so that we wont regret for the things that we can all avoid. then in most cases we find that women/ladies incase we happen to do amistake no matter how coincedence it was we are the ones who always face/suffer the consequences. so pliz lets all play safe and not take things for granted coz we do have still a long happy life ahead of us and lets enjoy life when we are still young.and always to be happy coz as they say before the day ends we should always make sure we are happy and we have make someone alse happy
Posted by Rose Mumbua on 08/31 at 10:33 PM
Young Women and Safety
When I think of this topic it kinda scares me because then I have to think of how many times as a young woman I am vulnerable. Especially in this day and age. Once 8pm reaches I need to find someone to accompany me home. Even during the day young women in Kenya are not safe. Take for instance when you wake up n decide what you wanna wear..you have to think twice may be because of where you are going. Sometimes even if you are “well dressed"(I think this is relative) men have nasty comments to throw at you. When you want to go out dancing most of the time you need to make sure you have a guy friend with you just to make sure you feel safer.
The police who are “Matumizi Kwa Wote” also play a major role when I think of my safety. I always think twice before I ask for assistance because they are also perpetrators of violence. I would really like to hear some of your experiences and thoughts around insecurity for young women. We can also share some tips on making our lives safer!
Posted by Nicole on 08/31 at 09:35 PM
How safe are we?
This week we will be blogging about women and safety.It is a very interesting topic and I can’t wait to read your posts.
This being the last week of the BAWo project,I would like to encourage everyone to make a post and comment on others posts.Thanks.
The question that I am asking myself is: How safe are we as women?Can we walk on the streets at night or even during the day and still feel safe?
Unfortunately,we cannot and if you are one of thise women who never experienced harrassment ,then count yourself as lucky.We are indeed the “weaker sex” but only weaker in terms of physical strenght but in all other areas we are the best ,fully mature and strong.We may be weak physially but we can find ways of protecting ourselves,many times we depend on other people to do things for you,we rely fully on them but what we must learn is that “people always leave"and we need to learn how to protect ourselves.
I don’t have much to say but I think I have said enough.
Look forward to your posts.
Posted by Sandy on 08/31 at 04:14 AM
Saturday, August 30, 2008
Please forgive fror not blogging sooner but the internet connection at my school is really bad and often overcrowded.
Teenage/early pregnancy is a something that we hear, see every single day.Its is something that so many young women go through in this day and age.I Cannot take sides on this argument because its a verysensitive issue.If you get pregnant when you are young, one has two choices either to bear the “shame” of having a baby while not married or to abort.Yes I said its a very sensitive issue.I know one thing for sure that we all make mistakes but what matters is what we learn from the mistakes we have made and how to move on in a way that we can avoid making the same mistake.I am notbeing judgemental,I am being real.ai have a few friends who at thismoment are proud mothers and there is one thing i admire about them thier strenght to carry on.It is beautiful I must add.I also have a couple who have gone tthe other direction and when they have the heart to talk about it ,they draw feelings of regret and anger.I have never been there but one thing I know for sure is that motherhood is beautiful ,whether young,old,I respect all motheres because they have shown that they are ready to make this world a better place.
I miss you all.
Posted by Sandy on 08/30 at 06:08 AM
Friday, August 29, 2008
“Too young to be called a mother and jus too old to be called a girl”
Thats the term I always refer to when I think about young mothers. It is a struggle, a debate, a fight with time and often time of confusion. Even for married women motherhood is quite overwhelming. For a young girl with no support she looses herself....in an instance you are no longer your mothers daughter but someones dependant or in addition someones wife. How many of us are supportive of young mothers? Not financially but emotionally. Sometimes all that one needs is a shoulder to lean on, a hand to hold and a voice to tell them everything will be okay.
Young mothers are put down and often led to believe that they have failed and are doomed. I believe they have the right to smile, to dream, to love and to dance. Its a long way coming but there needs to be structures that offer support emotionally to young mothers. Not to say that it is okay to have unprotevted sex but that if it has happen let us move on and better our lives, move mountains and shake the world!
It has come to a point of despair in our country the rates at which girls and young women are falling pregnant. We need to fight this battle and help young women and girls learn the need to be assertive enough to negotiate for safe sex without feeling intimidated....
Posted by Nicole on 08/29 at 01:23 AM
Monday, August 25, 2008
Early Pregnancy is one issue that has affected both young girls to day; with consent or not it has been a major issue in our Countries. We have witnessed a generation, where girls at tender age are engaged in risky sexual behaviors with all of us in the community watching. Statistics have shown that most of these girls are engaged in sex with much older men, risking their chances of being infected with HIV/AIDS.
As a young women advocate, the issue of girls engaging into sex early have been my areas of focus.
Ignorance has contributed a lot to girls engaging into sex. A large proportion of adolescent girls and boys have no access to sexual reproductive health information and services. Their important Live Teachers i.e. parents and school teachers offer little or no information at all. Most of the adolescents are left at mercies of their peers and media, who/which magnify sex and belittling the consequences or effects of the Act (sex).
Poverty is another cause of early pregnancy that we cannot ignore. This year I have got an opportunity to work in two slum areas (Mukuru and Mathare)
Before our sessions we always talk of our experience during the week. I asked one 16 year old and this what she said (Hey! last night it was horror! there is this neighbor of mine who brings girls to his room ALL times. I’m USED of him having sex, but last night it was too much) that’s how far I can go with this story for today.
The look in her eyes, I couldn’t help but sympathies with her. Most Families in Slum areas live in iron sheet house or cartoons depending with how rich they are. All are partitioned with cartoons or iron sheets, in that you can see (peep) or hear everything that happens in the neighbors house.
The question is how can we successfully promote abstinence in this environment where sex is seen and heard by our young ones?
Where in a single room, Parents sleep on the bed while the kids sleep under the bed?
Where rape I the older of the day?
Where there is no dignity of sex?
There is need to safe guard the lives of our girls. We need to deliver our citizens from esteem poverty, construct descent houses and uphold family morals and values for us to reduce teenage pregnancy.
Institutions of education need to integrate sexual and reproductive health education in school syllabus so that Young people can be equipped with SRH, livelihood and life skills at tender age, grow up knowing the right and wrong and be able to make informed choices .
The government need to reinforce all those bills that protect adolescent girls form sexual abuse and exploitation
As a community, our role is clear, let teach our young boys and girls SEX. If we don’t a bad guy will.
Change starts with us. Me and You.
Posted by Felistah on 08/25 at 02:42 AM
teenagers/ early pregnancy
todays topic is kind of interesting because we all pass through that age(teenage age). ok in this case the people who are affected mostly is the ladies. lets talk about school, you find that when a girl go ahead and have sex the she is likely to be pregnant, when this happens the person to drop school is the girl coz she has to go to give birth and in many cases she doesn’t continue with the school. again this girl she is still very young and that is very insecure to this girls life bcoz she is still very young to start giving birth or she may decide to do abortion on which is very risky to her live. you know is a tragedy when you mess your life when you were still young. then in the future you came to regret when the right time finally comes. so lets watch out and lets not try practicing it no matter what the temptation also lets teach the young ones not to try it, till marriage
Posted by Rose Mumbua on 08/25 at 01:26 AM
HI everyone its yet another week good to hear from everyone,when you are pregnant its good but at the right time being a teenage is very good you enjoy every bit of it but you have to be very careful many obstacles come your way and you have to be strong .when you get pregnant at teenage you face many problems when giving birth also taking care of the baby coz you are still young .many girls have been pregnant at teenage and they boyfriends leave them they face many problems every teenage girl should be careful and do the right thing at the right time.
Posted by Loise Nyambura on 08/25 at 12:30 AM
Thursday, August 21, 2008
A Diversion: Young Kenyans at Risk Speak Out Through Blogs and Photos
Sorry for breaking the flow of this week’s discussion. I received this from a mailing list I belong to about young kenyans participating in a blogging project, a little similar to BAWo and thought you might be interested in reading about it.
News Bulletin 153
August 20, 2008
Young Kenyans at Risk Speak Out Through Blogs and Photos
August 20, 2008, Nairobi, Kenya: A pioneering initiative by an Advocacy Project (AP) Peace Fellow is using the Internet to bring the voices of disadvantaged youth in Kenya to the world.
Peace Fellow Kristina Rosinsky is volunteering this summer with the Undugu Society of Kenya (USK), an AP partner that works with children who live and work on the streets, and with vulnerable youth. Ms Rosinsky has helped USK start a Digital Storytelling Project, which she is using to teach blogging, photography and computer skills to 17 young people who live on the streets or in informal settlements.
The project seeks to change negative stereotypes about these children and advocate for the issues they raise. USK plans to hold a national conference at the end of this year and develop a plan of action around the issues explored in the students’ blogs.
“The public can learn that these students are intelligent members of society that have something to contribute to debates on issues affecting the country,” Ms Rosinsky said. “The public’s stereotypes of children living on the streets do not reflect reality.”
The students’ blogs cover topics ranging from issues like the environment and post-election violence to stories about their personal lives. So far, 19-year-old Amina Kombo has blogged about discrimination she faced as a Muslim, the death of an elderly man that she witnessed during a post-election riot and a friend who was shot in the streets of Nairobi. Her photos include portraits of a young boy getting high on glue.
“The project was very fun from beginning to end,” Ms Kombo said. “I truly love blogging for I get to share most of my ups and downs with other people.”
Of the 17 students in Ms Rosinsky’s workshop, nine were chosen from USK’s Education and Training program, which helps poor youth get an education and learn vocational skills. The other eight were chosen from USK’s Street Children and Youth Associations, which are groups of young people who live and work on the streets. There are thought to be 250,000 such children in Kenya, and approximately 60,000 in Nairobi alone.
The project received funding from the Jessica Jennifer Cohen Foundation, a US-based charity that contributed $1,600 toward the costs of digital cameras, memory cards, Internet fees, and travel expenses.
Classes began with an introduction to blogging and photography. Although just two of her students had used a computer before, and only one had used a camera, Ms Rosinsky said the children got used to the technology quickly, and impressed her with their writing.
“I figured that the kids I would be teaching would be uneducated, high and generally hard to teach but… these preconceived notions were wildly off the mark,” Ms Rosinsky wrote in her own blog.
Beginning in September, the 10 best students will be trained to teach other students the skills they have learned. Additionally, the top two students will be trained to run the project once Ms Rosinsky leaves Kenya in November. The plan is for a new group of students to start classes in January 2009, taught by Ms Rosinsky’s current students.
AP is helping USK to raise funds for this next phase of the project. To help, please visit their donations page.
* See the blogs and photos of the Digital Storytelling Project
* Read the blog of AP Peace Fellow Kristina Rosinsky
* Learn more about the Undugu Society of Kenya
AdvocacyNet is a service of The Advocacy Project (AP) that is offered to advocates working for human rights and social justice at the community level. AP is based in Washington, DC. Phone +1 202 332 3900; fax +1 202 332 4600. For more information visit our website (http://www.advocacynet.org/) or email us.
Posted by Ore on 08/21 at 11:10 AM
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
I am not really a sports person but onre thing that i do know is that it is good for me and you as well.I haven’t done much sports but I am a pretty active person and to me sports does’nt neccessarily mean a field,balls and all that.I can say dancing is a good sport and I do tat very often and I am not claiming to be fit but lets just say that if a crocodile(I really fear crocodiles infact, reptiles for that matter) showed up at this precise moment i could run for my life.Obviously,I dont have to say much to say about sports so I will sign off.
Posted by Sandy on 08/20 at 09:11 AM
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
WOMEN AND SPORTS
One of my highlights for high school was playing volleyball and I would start looking forward to practice at breaktime which was about ten to after classes at four when trainning started! The volleyball field was a place for me to unwind and shout and just be myself.
It is true that not many women,compared to men,are involved in sports and this is very sad.Sports enhances unity through teamwork;it creates a forum for interaction and as a result people are able to learn from each other and the most beautiful thing is that exercises are great for relieving tension and stress!
Most women are usually involved in many activities that they hardly have time to do other things like sports.I think in such situations,women can take up jogging in the morning or evening for at least half an hour as this is better than no exercise at all.This is an interesting topic but im afraid I havent much to say about it.
(Lost my grandfather and will be travelling.Will catch up as soon as I return.)
Posted by Sylvia Ochola on 08/19 at 06:40 AM
Monday, August 18, 2008
Women & Sports
It’s been great to read all your posts and comments in the last few weeks, though I have not been able to participate much. Last week, my organisation hosted a technology camp for high school girls and although technology was a major focus and I spent a good part of my day in the computer lab, I did not have much time to check email and go online.
Anyway, this is a great time to talk about women and sports, with the Olympics going on and us seeing so many fine examples of women in sports. I have never been very good at any sports though I love walking and going to the gym.
The benefits cannot be over-emphasised. Sports help teach the value of teamwork and hard work. And of course, you feel and look great afterwards. The ironic thing is that many young girls I know (and even women) do not really like sports. For some, their reasons are that it messes up their hair and makes them get all sweaty. Many even think that fitness is something to be indulged in only when trying to lose weight. These ideas tend to be easily passed from mothers to daughters.
Along with doing sports or participating in fitness, should be the attention to a healthy diet. This is another big problem, especially here in Nigeria as starchy and oily foods are among the most common. These unhealthy diets are also passed on from one generation to the next. Women have a big role to play in creating healthier ideas about diet and fitness.
I admire sports people, as I think their determination, hard work and sense of purpose is something to be emulated.
Posted by Ore on 08/18 at 09:18 AM
Women and Sports
I am one Person inspired very much by the Olympics this year. I have created a habit of watching the games once a day. What really coughs my eyes is the beautiful women form all over the world participating in the event. Women have shown that, what men can do, women can do. Women are breaking records, registering a win over men. I’m proud of one of our own Catherine Ndereba.
Sport for women serves both social and economical purpose.
Women have participated in sport to socialize, expand their networks, leisure and creating awareness. Here in Kenya we are witnessing adolescent girls getting involved in football as players, a game once dominated by Male.
I’m happy for this girls as they invest their time well, hence avoiding risky behaviors that might lead to HIV infection, teenage pregnancy and crime.
For economical purposes, a good number of women earn their living through sport. They meet their daily bread through sport.
Sporting for women is a is a live time activity for women of Great Spirit. I admire their zeal and determination.
It’s a spirit we all should admire and be a part of.
I working on getting back to sporting, the ACT and ART of great women. YOU have to join me.
Posted by Felistah on 08/18 at 12:19 AM